Am I a Closet People-Pleaser??

I went for a follow-up appointment with my favorite specialist, expecting the usual update & check in. As I brought him up to date on the treatments prescribed by my other specialist he became openly displeased (but never rude-he’s awesome!). He wasn’t happy that I was taking steroids or that my dose of methotrexate was so low & he wanted it to be injections not oral.  Did I explain to him the goals behind taking this approach?  Well NO.  Why not?  I have no flippin’ clue!!  I was reduced to a bumbling idiot in the face of his displeasure; I even felt guilty!  All of this took place in the span of five minutes; I am a medical professional, accustomed to discussing this stuff with him.  I can’t imagine the impact a situation like this would have on a layperson in the same situation.

I’ve had to back up & punt.  My strategy for the next appointment will include a written list with my rationale listed for the assorted treatments.  Maybe I won’t look like a dumb ass.  I always recommend my patients do this; maybe I should practice what I preach…..However, the bigger questions are: Why is his approval so important to me & why did it have such an impact? Hmmm…


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Maryn Christophel
    Aug 20, 2010 @ 15:50:07

    I think the reason is that girls from the time they are little are taught to be good, translation, keep quiet and sit still cause are hands are full with the physical, tactile little boys. I am on a mission lately to encourage the lioness in us “good girls” to surface more. Your a mom so I know you know how to channel this, just start doing it for yourself once in awhile.


    • autoimmunemaven
      Aug 21, 2010 @ 00:00:15

      You’re right about little girls being taught to be ‘good’. Learning to step out of that box is really liberating. I still have to watch myself tho–I’ll still slide back into that role!! Ah, what an impact our childhood has….


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